Why do people delete you as a friend off of social media?

In this article, we are going to go over some of the reasons why people will delete others off of social media apps such as Facebook and Snapchat.

Firstly, it is worth pointing out that this “removal” might not have anything to do with you. In certain cases, people will delete you from their friend list for reasons that aren’t even directly related to you.

In other words, try not to beat yourself up about it. It does not necessarily mean that you did something wrong.

They removed you during a friend list “clear out”.

They might have “cleared out” their friend list so that it only consists of close friends, work colleagues and family. This can happen when people feel as though they have added too many people.

For example, when I first started Facebook, I would accept friend requests from almost anyone. It did not matter if I knew them personally or not.

However, as time went by and I grew older, I started to become more aware of my own personal privacy. Basically, I didn’t like the thought that random strangers could see sensitive details about my life.

I also grew less interested in the lives of people that I had never even met in real life.

Were you romantically linked in the past?

If you had a “romantic involvement” in the past, then it is possible that they still have feelings for you. If this is the case, then seeing your updates on Facebook and Snapchat could be taxing on their mental health.

That or they just wanted to “close the past off” and move forward with their life.

A partner may have forced them to remove certain people.

People will keep details about their relationships private. As a result, we usually don’t know what is going on behind the scenes.

On social media, it can seem as though a couple has the perfect relationship. However, that isn’t always the case.

For example, is their partner jealous and possessive? Do they start arguments over who is on their friend list?

Similarly, did this person force their partner to remove certain people? If this is the case, then they may have had to “return the favor” and do the same thing.

What if this person was caught being unfaithful on social media? The fallout of such an event could easily lead to a “review” of their friend list.

As you can see, there are so many possibilities here that it is impossible to list them all.

They removed you because you posted something that offended them.

They may have deleted you as a friend because you posted something that they found offensive. That, or they completely disagree with your political views.

Instead of starting a big argument about it, they decided to cut ties with you on social media.

Remember that not everyone is on Facebook to debate about politics.

You post way too much stuff.

People who share everything and post a lot can irritate others.

For example, there are people who will add multiple videos and photos to their Instagram and Snapchat stories every single day.

If you’re the type of person who regularly shares dozens of posts every single day, then it is likely that at least one of your friends will remove you.

That’s just a harsh reality.

I mean, it’s your profile. You can upload and share what you want. Just don’t expect everyone to sit there and look at it all.

They originally added you because they had an interest in you.

This person may have originally added you because they had an interest in you. However, they were too shy to “shoot their shot”.

For example.

  1. Person A adds you as a friend because they think you are attractive.
  2. Months pass by and you barely interact with each other. You might like each other’s posts the odd time, but no messaging takes place.
  3. You get a new boyfriend or girlfriend. Or perhaps they start seeing someone.
  4. As a result, Person A decides to delete you.

Basically, it is their way of throwing in the towel on any possible relationship with you.

You complain too much.

Personally speaking, I will mute or unfollow people who complain too much. If I see someone on my feed who is constantly complaining about politics and current events, I will remove them.

Does this mean that I do not have an interest in politics? Of course not. It just means that I have zero interest in seeing someone repeating the same arguments and sound bites over and over again.

I personally find that kind of behavior to be grating.

They deleted you off social media because you are friends with their ex.

After a breakup, people will often remove their ex from their social media accounts. They may also remove all of their ex’s friends as well.


  1. They are trying to move on. However, seeing your posts will remind them of their ex.
  2. They fear the possibility that their ex will get you to spy on their social media accounts.

This “nuclear delete” option is far more popular than you think.

They believed that one of your posts was about them.

Take the following example.

  1. Sara Bloggs takes part in a social media trend. She uploads her post to Facebook or Snapchat. However, you do not see this post.
  2. Two days later, you share your opinion on how you think that the social media trend in question is “stupid”.

As a result, Sara thinks that your post is an attack on her.

To make a long story short, sometimes we criticize things in general without realizing that others might think that it is specifically about them.

They got back together with their ex.

Sometimes, when a relationship ends, people will go on an “adding spree”. There could be multiple reasons for this. For example, they might be trying to make their ex-partner jealous.

If this is the case, then they may “purge” their friend list once the relationship with their ex is “rekindled”.

From my experience, this kind of behavior is more common in couples who are constantly breaking up and getting back together.

They deleted you because they’ve become “serious” with someone else.

Modern dating can be confusing. People will sometimes chat to multiple people on dating apps even though they are currently “seeing” someone.

I quoted the word “seeing” because that can mean anything. It’s the murky pre-relationship stage before something becomes official.

Usually, this kind of situation arises when one of them is not ready to commit to a relationship.

For example, if a girl that you met on Tinder suddenly deletes you off Snapchat, then it might not have anything to do with you.

The problem here is that you don’t know much about her situation. She is just someone that you recently connected with on social media.

Maybe the guy she has been “seeing” for the past month or so has finally agreed to an official relationship? Or perhaps her ex is back in the picture?

It really is hard to know.

Unless the two of you have actually been on dates together, it’s probably best that you just let it go and move on.

You fell out with their friend.

If you have a huge argument with someone and the both of you end up deleting each other as friends, don’t be surprised if their close friends and family members also remove you.

Sometimes, these people will feel as if they must delete you as well. For example, they might think that it is the “loyal” thing to do. Or they could feel pressured into doing so.

The person in question recently left your workplace.

When a woman at our company left on bad terms, she decided to remove everyone that she had worked with. We’re talking about a friend “clear out” of around 30 people here.

Most of these people had nothing to do with her leaving. And the vast majority of them were on friendly terms with her for years.

However, she still decided to “nuke” everyone.

Why? Who knows.

Maybe we reminded her of the place. Maybe she wanted a fresh start in life.

Conclusion: Why do people delete others off social media?

As you can see, there are an endless number of reasons why someone might have deleted you off social media. And in many cases, it’s them, not you.

Therefore, you shouldn’t automatically assume that you are at fault. Everyone is going through different situations in their life.

Unless you are close to this person, there is no point in spending too much time worrying about it.